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Shalom Love With Stacie Ikka- 20 Ideas For Meeting Other Singles

Having trouble finding other singles in your community? Stacie has 20 great suggestions.

By: Ashley Baylen

Published: December 8th, 2011 in Culture » Society » News

Shalom Love With Stacie Ikka- 20 Ideas For Meeting Other Singles

20 Ideas For Meeting Other Singles

This week I’d like to offer some suggestions as to how and where to meet other singles. The purpose of the exercise is not one of originality, so please excuse any clichés. Rather, it’s to motivate those of you who may be stuck in a dating rut.

It is my belief that – with the right mindset – you can meet new and interesting dating prospects anywhere and everywhere, so this list is not meant to be exhaustive or limiting. Simply a start.

As a wise Bubbie once said: “you’re not going to meet anyone on your couch”. Staying in to decompress and unwind from a busy week or a hectic day is often required, however, single people tend to stay in more than they should…and then wonder why they are not meeting new people.

The overall goal is to put yourself “out there” by getting you off of your couch, or out from behind your desk, so that you can practice being open and receptive to new people. If the people who you meet (by following any of the suggestions below) are not suitable romantic prospects, I encourage you to not be so quick to dismiss…they may have friends, family or colleagues who would be better suited to you. The key is to ensure that you are doing things that you genuinely enjoy doing – for YOU - so that there are no reasons to make excuses for not doing them.

Suggestion # 1: Consider a singles cruise with www.singlescruise.com or www.vacationstogo.com

Contrary to popular belief, these cruises are not orgies on water (I’ve gone on two SinglesCruises myself and have lots of insight to offer if asked). There is usually something for everyone - regardless of age, gender, hobbies, etc. - and they are a great way for single people to travel, especially when travelling solo. If it’s important for you to travel with other Jewish singles, check out JDate for their vacation schedule.

Suggestion # 2: The Dog Park

No, it's not a new, hip nightclub or lounge. I mean somewhere in your neighbourhood where dog owners are known to congregate. Don't have a dog? No problem! Offer to borrow your friend's or your neighbour’s and take that puppy for a stroll. Your friend will appreciate the free (and unexpected?) dog walking/sitting services and you just might find yourself a date! If you’re allergic, have a fear of dogs or just plain don’t like ‘em…no problem…keep reading.

Suggestion # 3: The Gym.

As cliché as it sounds, you CAN meet other single people at the gym…maybe just stay away from the people who are perpetually engaged in conversations by the proverbial (or literal) water cooler (they are *typically* the “players”).

Suggestion # 4: A Coffee Shop

Pick a local coffee shop and go there a few times a week, at the same time of day, for a period of no less than one hour. Bring a book, your iPad, your spiral notebook…something you find relaxing. Leave your cell phone at home (yeah, right…who am I kidding?), or turn it off and leave it in your car, your purse or your coat pocket. Sit back, enjoy your “me” time and be thankful that you have the luxury to do so. You will likely notice that your coffee shop has “regulars”…people who use the coffee shop as their office (check out the Facebook page “The Coffice”), as their local meeting spot with friends, or as their favourite place to do just what you’re doing there. You will begin to recognize these regulars and, in turn, they will begin to notice you too. As this happens, be friendly. Start with eye contact and smiles. Then, progress to polite greetings (hey…how’s it going?), and then allow/initiate short conversations. Before you know it, you’ll have a new acquaintance and, you just never know, maybe even a date.

Suggestion # 5: Join a group

This group can be a book club, a wine club or a group that supports a political, religious or social interest you believe in, for example. Joining a group gets you involved in an extracurricular activity – something to get your mind off of work, your day-to-day worries and/or your kids – that will, hopefully, stimulate you and help to keep you balanced. It’s important – for your overall well-being – to find things you enjoy outside of work and family that are completely “yours”. It also brings you together with people who share a common interest. 's and take that puppy for a stroll! Your friend will appreciate the free (and unexpected?) dog walking/sitting services and you just might find yourself a date! If you're allergic, have a fear of dogs or just plain don't like 'em...no problem...we'll have plenty more tips this month...just stay tuned!

Suggestion # 6: Grab a friend and hit the driving range

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