The Love Jewce: Great Sex is Yet Another Reason to Keep it in The Tribe

Sex. S-E-X. A subject that has always been controversial no matter what religion you are. We’re told from a young age to wait until marriage and sometimes even told that babies come from storks, but a detail that the rebbe’s forget to tell us until we’re approaching the chuppah is that the Torah condones sex.

The Torah condones sex, it condones sex on the Shabbat, and it even promotes a man pleasing his wife, especially on Shabbat. While the Torah forbids certain acts of creation on Shabbat, this only extends so far, it never said it is forbidden to do the act of creating a fetus.

So if you’re wondering exactly where this comes from, please read on.

It’s a mitzvah to have sex on Shabbat, well sort of. One is to be fruitful and multiply, that comes from Genesis 1:28 and the second is, the one all my Jewish girls should “challah” at (get it holla, challah). It is lesser known but should be taught to men once they’re mature enough, is that the husband should ensure he sexually satisfies his wife, Genesis 1:28.

The second one should be a favorite to all, but wait if you’re reading this you’re probably a millennial who wouldn’t even think about getting married, so why care about this article.

Bottom line you’ve probably had sex before marriage, don’t beat yourself up about it. The Torah doesn’t come out and tell us sex before marriage is forbidden, let’s just say it isn’t the holiest thing we could do. Sex during marriage is known as kiddushin, meaning holy and in Judaism those things that are holy whether it be sex or Shabbat are set apart and special and unique from the not so holy things.

None the less while Shabbat is observed through eating (as we’re always doing), socializing, and of course relaxing, we shall not forget G-d’s message about another thing we should be enjoying. . .orgasms, that is only if they’re holy.

This is just food for thought and this is just a memo about sex and Jews. So, if you’ve read this column, use it as another reason to literally “keep it in the tribe.”

Andria Kaplan is ShalomLife’s 89% kosher resident dating/love columnist. Find her on Tinder, but only if you’re Jewish.

Want to share your own Tinder stories, awkward dates, or interesting JDate experiences ? Email Andria at andriakaplan@gmail.com or tweet your suggestions to @ShalomLife, or @AndriaKaplan.

Tune in next Tuesday for the next episode of The Love Jewce.